7 reasons why we get into a relationship!

Ever wonder why you'll get into a relationship? It has to be more than just mutual liking, isn't it? Well, there are actually 7 broad reasons why we get into relationships :)


1. Physical appearances


Much as we like to say "Beauty is only skin-deep", it sadly isn't really the case at the first stage of a relationship. In fact, it is considered the most important factor. Our own perceptions of physical attractiveness are what draws us to a person, to make us take a second glance and go "Wow". The way we judge physical appearances are also greatly influenced by cultural norms and socialisation. If your society does not favour plastic surgery, chances are, you won't either. Mixing with beautiful people all the time will also raise your own standards when looking for a partner as well.

2. Similarity


We tend to be attracted to people who are similar to us. It reduces any potential risks as people from different backgrounds will have different values or lifestyles. We favour people who have common interests, beliefs and even educational levels as us. Indeed, this is why we often hear excuses of "We don't click." or "Personality differences" given for couples who broke up.

3. Dissimilarity


However, there are some who get together simply because "opposites attract". We sometimes choose to be with someone who is different from us in every way. In fact, complementary differences can sustain a relationship as they function better together than apart. For instance, someone reserved might choose to be with someone open and charismatic. The reserved one can become more popular, while the charismatic one might feel at peace when with his or her partner.


4. Exchange


We also form relationships based on our perceptions of the costs and rewards we can get from it. We enter a relationship with a general expectation of what we deserve to get out of it. Although it sounds mercenary and seems to view relationships as a transaction, entering a relationship entails investments of all sorts - of time, of money and of feelings. Hence, people tend to weigh and see if a relationship is worth their efforts before committing to one.


5. Proximity


Many relationships start due to this factor. Proximity refers to the chance to get to know a person more to form a relationship with the person. Shared social contacts allow greater opportunities for greater interaction and less intimidation and uncertainty. Imagine wanting to know a new guy in school, who would have more opportunity - his neighbour, or you? (Well, don't give up hope yet. Ever heard the saying "Familiarity breeds contempt"? ;)


6. Reciprocity and liking


We tend to form relationships with those who reciprocate our communication as this minimizes risk. The perception that someone likes us serves as a form or validation.


7. Competency


There are some who form relationships with only those who are competent. This includes those who excel in sports, at work, or even in looks. However, its importance is subjective, as it depends on the individuals and the types of competency. It can also be due to cultural or social norms.


Most of the times, we do not depend solely on a single factor, but instead, a combination of a few of them. What has been a factor for you? Or are there any more factors that aren't here? Do share (: